| No. |
General |
Active |
| 1 | Baby Come on get up, going to be late! | Baby, it’s a sunny day, hear the birds twittering sounds that? Aunts and uncles as well as sanitation sweeping sounds? |
| 2 | Baby to school to be good, and seriously listen to the teacher in class, to complete the job on time! | Baby, I wish you a happy mother happily spend this day, my mother came back from school waiting for you to share interesting things happening in the school. |
| 3 | Park sudden rain, “this ghost weather, the weekend can not look good fun.” | I usually sunny park, rainy walk in the park feel more fresh air it. |
| 4 | Congestion sick of it, have to wait until when? Also home to a bunch of things! | And the children happily talk about interesting things happened in the school. |
| 5 | Mom worked to death, for you to go to school, you do not work hard to make money how can condition a good school? | Mom tired today, can not tell you the story, the mother needs a good rest. |
Common life positive and negative language and the language of comparison:
|
For passive language |
Proactive language |
| I had to go | I chose to go |
| I can not, like, if …… | I can …… |
| Unless …… talent, I can not | There is no other possibility to try |
| He makes me very angry | I can control my emotions |
I have used the language of the game converting ICA gathering in Beijing, everyone agreed that this game makes people happy, it will find another angle if aware of their good side, to reduce self-blame, you can better accept yourself, while others see the bright side, you can reduce judgment and prejudice of others, to help the interaction between people.
V. Conclusions
A country with 26 years of military service in the Special Forces instructors, “Fast Company” magazine section of analogy: “If there are two soldiers, one of which affected all over the world but the negative attitude of survival training, and the other received only a little training but a positive attitude I guarantee a positive attitude must be that the soldiers out of danger successful forest.
In the coaching process, the coach is the only full potential of the customer as an individual, to cultivate customer’s positive psychological quality and help customers realize the value of life and enjoy a happy life as a coaching goal, customer individual initiative and creativity in order to play.
Therefore, as a coach, we should be able to maximize the positive attitude to cultivate customers mobilize their initiative and creativity, and more importantly himself as a coach to have a positive a positive attitude, attention to their personal growth and life.
Quoting text messages as conclusion: “We can not change the past, but you can change now; we can not predict tomorrow, but you can hold today; we can not change the environment, but can change yourself; we can not choose your face, but you can show a smile; we can not do things well, but you can be conscientious in everything; we can not extend the length of life, but you can decide the width of life. ”
References:
- Note (1), (2), (3), (4) are taken from Baidu Library
- (English) O Connor, J, Wong, M. Coke, “NLP coach” – how to become a master coach;
- Anna Faris ?? Morton Aromatic ?? Secretary Mak Chee, Peng Yu translation, “self-coach”;
- Note (5) Quoted from “skill and quality coaching” ICA courseware;
- Note (6) cited ICA courseware “International Coach Federation capability.”