Research Paper By Qi Chen
(Life Coach, CHINA China)
Self-state mode (PAC Model) is an important foundation of communication theory (Transactional Analysis, TA)’s. The school was founded in 1958 by the Eric Berne, is a method of psychological treatment of personality theory and systems. It ego state model to describe the three parts of the personality, to help us understand how different personality influence our thinking, feeling and behavior.
Communication analysis in psychological counseling and therapy has occupied an important place in recent years, attempts have been studied and their applications in business and education. I have been fortunate to learn communication analysis, I am truly benefit; think its promising in coaching, and so in this comment, from ego state model in the “see themselves” in the application of talking, ready to trigger interest and explore more fellow, so Its building blocks for our coaching practice.
Customers help coach, and more is to get professional help, which allow them to see themselves and their situation, find a way out, the achievements of hope to change. In this process, “see” is particularly important. Once clearly see, most people will be able to more easily find a way. In the “see”, the see themselves more critical, because only understand himself straightened out, we can think clearly be to observe and analyze the situation we find ourselves.
See yourself is not easy. Benjamin Franklin once said: “There are three things extremely hard, steel, diamonds and know yourself.”, We believe that everyone has their own experience. Imagine an onion, peel the layers to get out of yourself and see yourself wrapped in the cloak of heart, all the difficulties and possibly tingling, not to mention advanced complex human too!
As a coach, with love and acceptance for customers to create a safe space, and the patience to listen and companionship, this is not enough. We must have some powerful tools to help customers see themselves out of sight, to reach their own situation, this is a manifestation of a professional coach and value. Self-state model is a powerful tool. This paper briefly describes the ego state model and analysis through a case and demonstrated its role in helping customers “see themselves” in the play.
Self-state model is the basis of communication theory and the most important concepts. We often say it’s “self” is divided into three parts: the parent ego state (Parent ego state), adult ego state (Adult ego state) and child ego state (Child ego state), as shown in Fig.
For a healthy balance of people, all three ego states are necessary. Adult ego state that we need to deal with the here and now, and help us to live effective lives. We also need parents to provide specifications to comply with ego state, let us live in harmony with others, into society. We also need the child ego state of intuition, spontaneity and creativity, so that we can feel the heart and dedication to the pursuit of need, to create and enjoy our life.
We usually between three ego states free conversion. As I sit here thinking and writing my thesis, I was in my adult self state. When I was constantly reminded his son in the morning, “Hurry Hurry, bags tidy it?”, I was in my parents’ state. When I finally graduated, and students together to carnival night when I was in my children’s self-state. Sometimes we will be in a “mismatched” ego states, for example: when I write papers distracted, thinking about the wonderful vacation; And when I sunbathing on the beach, and my heart thinking about all sorts of matters back to the office after . Sometimes also, we will be fixed in a state where not freely convertible, for example: a mother and severe anxiety, seven days a week and strict management of the child’s time, in addition to eating and sleeping is learning, ignoring the other normal child needs. In these cases, we will work inefficient, mental balance; so long, our lives and our health will suffer.