I have tried to learn how to cook and enjoyed the relaxation days without the tight working schedules or project deadlines. However, I found that I missed the moment when I worked together with the clients, which inspired me and make me really proud of myself. The belief of “not good mother” comes to my mind again, and I started to wander “what are the criteria of a Good Mother?” “Who do I really want to be when I play the role as a Good Mother?” “Who am I as the Ideal Self?”
起初我很享受这种休闲的日子,再也没有紧张的日程安排和项目期限,我开始尝试学习如何烹饪等。但后来,我发现自己会怀念那些和客户一起工作的时光,除了帮助客户,自己也一直在其中吸取和成长,工作中的自己是“骄傲”的。我开始思考“不够好的妈妈”这个信念对我意味着什么?“好妈妈的标准又是什么?”“当我扮演好妈妈角色的时候,自己真正想做的是什么?”“那个内在的理想的我是谁?”
It is found as Maragret Young said that “often people attempt to live their lives backward: they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want so they will be happier. The way is actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then, do what you need to do, in order to have what you want. “
正如Maragret Young所说: 常常人们试图“反向生活”,总想着更努力,赚更多的钱,才能实现幸福生活的目标。 而事实恰恰相反, 只有清楚自己是谁,才能知道该做什么,该拥有什么