A Coaching Power Tool Created by Shuang Wang
(Leadership Coach, CHINA)
Promising and inaction
“Moral” in the proposed “inaction” concept “for the inaction, no dead,” “Road often nothing and everything.” Inaction is the basic idea of Taoism, the basic approach is its practice. Lao repeatedly stressed to all of inaction, so inaction is not doing nothing, but authentic and laws shun things to do, with them. On the contrary, it is called promising.
If used in a parent-child relationship, inaction education is obedient child’s nature, let the children go to work happily, happily grow. Promising starting point of education is to think hard and comprehensively to help children grow. However, often the more effort and comprehensively affect the child, the greater the harm to the child. Even the great educator, education will give their children over a bad effect, because it is independent contrary to the child’s growth.
Whether our current education teachers or parents, are increasingly affecting all aspects of refinement child’s life, too refined education is essentially a promising education.
Case: Daughter language scores particularly poor. Mom was very angry, opened her paper was severely criticized, said: “! You usually do not work hard, the results of the test was so bad, I’m very disappointed,” Mom say is true, but let her get hurt, play is to combat effect. Mom really does make such a child for fear of being criticized again and began to seriously study, the next may get a better result, apparently received a good education is the effect, but in fact, the child’s heart left a scar, she might learn from hate and fear, which is to allow children to grow up in the depression and pain in promising education.
The father’s approach is: the daughter went to him, and handed her the papers, smiled and said: “The baby daughter, your test scores is not very good this time, I believe it is because you did not do too seriously, if you really have any place. No, it means there may be the teacher did not make it clear where you did not have time to ask, I can help you ask the teacher or tomorrow, you’re not a child does not speak my mind, my father believed that as long as you put a few questions to find out the next will get good grades! “Dad say, the child heart, feel the affirmation of his father, trust. These are all positive things, they will nourish the child’s mind, let the children happy, stretch and grow. This is inaction education.
Self-application
Here are some of the points lead us to a “promising” motives in the process of educating the children: I believe that I must let the children is authoritative, respected; If I did not know what to say, I would look silly. C